It doesn't matter what I wear or how I act or the way I chose to flirt (or even not flirt), the minute I open my mouth and start a conversation with a man it's going to go one of two ways:1. He's going to be totally intimidated by my spitfire way with words and go running for the hills. When you're a woman, like it or not, you very quickly become aware of the things about you that intimidate men.
What intimidates a man about a woman is most often stuff we can't control.
"David," she said to my father, "should we be worrying about her around boys?
" My dad put down his newspaper looked me up and down and made his decision."Only until she opens her mouth." RELATED: Why Falling In Love Is SO DAMN HARD For Strong Women At the time I was indignant, but the truth was that he was right.
They don’t do this by walking around with a chip on their shoulder though; in fact, just the opposite: they are living their life the way they want, and some men can’t handle that.
The men who I wanted to be dating, on the other hand, wouldn’t call me for a second date, because they’re men who like forthright, independent, complicated women — and that’s not who I was being.
It took me a while to understand that, by covering up my supposedly intimidating attributes, I wasn’t “fixing” myself; I just wasn’t being true to myself.
I tend to let things roll off my back, but I’m not afraid to speak up if something pisses me off.
I’m independent — I live alone, I support myself, and I don’t need anyone to help me change a lightbulb.