As a blonde, blue-eyed woman of average height, I get asked out a lot more, though I'm not 100% sure dating's actually any easier!Brett: I'm 5'8", so I've always felt I'm in this weird middle ground of not really knowing if I'm "short" or not.Yes, focusing on what's inside is more important — but that's easier said than done.It's hard to ignore something as obvious as height, especially if it makes a person stand out.
They make endless unwarranted comments, trying to reassure me that I don't seem "too tall" or "too big." They'll say, "You carry it well," or "Just don't wear heels and you're fine." They act shocked when I say I'm six feet, and beg me to stand back-to-back. These comments also imply that there's a cutoff at which a woman's height becomes unattractive and unacceptable — and that luckily, I fall below it.There's nothing I can do about my height to resist these norms, but I can certainly say that I'm not a "small" person, aside from physically, and guys come to see that soon after meeting me.However, some things are near inescapable; I wish I had a penny for every time a guy called me a "firecracker" as a compliment.I've been told more than a few times that "there's no way I can tell you're trans," and that helps men feel comfortable dating me.I've even been in a couple of dating situations where people have thought I was kidding when I came out to them as trans.