Some people have voids inside them and they forever try to fill them – with having other people desire them, with sex, with power, with money, etc.
In many cases, the void that people feel is caused by a feeling of separateness – a feeling that we don’t belong and aren’t acceptable.
Do you know what’s at the core of why women put up with behavior they find unacceptable? The reality of it is that if you want to mentally and emotionally be in a place where you have any say in your relationship, you have to diminish your fear of loss.
Let me shift your attention to the fact that you this guy.
Most aren’t even consciously aware of those feelings.
But if you can see past your own hurts and desires, you’ll see men everywhere trying to fill emotional voids through their actions and achievements.
You say that you give him everything he needs sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally. you’re basically saying that you’re his perfect dream girl.
Maybe what you meant is that you’re giving him everything *you think* he needs sexually, emotionally, etc. Oftentimes, we love other people in the way that we want to be loved – and while you make certain adjustments toward him since he’s a dude, it’s not safe to bet that you’re satisfying his every need…
you don’t know his motivation or what he “gets” from it.
I have been with my boyfriend for over a year and I do not understand why he won’t stop flirting with other girls.
I give him everything that he needs sexually, emotionally, physically and mentally, but still he flirts with other girls and has sexy conversations with them. You’re making a whole lot of assumptions in your question…
The problem is that guys know a woman’s bluff from a mile away…
and the moment you start bluffing about how much you’re willing to tolerate, he knows you’ll tolerate just about anything. Because if you’re afraid enough to lie about your limits, then it’s pretty likely that you don’t actually have limits you’re willing to enforce. Fear that this guy is the one true love of their life.