Perhaps he invites you to his house, but everywhere you go, even the bathroom, reeks of her. He may keep you hidden from them at first, not knowing how they will react to their father with another woman. Such a man may tell you that he is working through his grieving process and that he is trying to learn to love someone again.
He just wants to tell you all the special things they did together.
You imagine yourself in a fantasy, where you go places and do things together. He/she is romantic, loving, kind, and does exactly what you want when you want it.
The only problem is, this person doesn’t actually exist.
Some may not have ever dated another woman, because they married the first woman they ever met.
A lot of older widowers have grown children; in fact, many may even be grandfathers. Widowers often need a woman’s touch around the house.