I was very inspired to start this blog by a conversation I was having with a good friend of mine, George Ellwanger regarding our daughters dating and that we as fathers need to be very involved with guiding them in choosing suitable young men to date.This is what George said: “James brought up a great point the other day. D.” and in smaller script below this acronym it read: “Dads Against Daughters Dating”.My father was like the man at Car Free Day, proud of his opposition to his daughter dating.He is also less likely to try to compromise the values and the virtue of the young girl, because he can see what a great catch he has made and will either try very hard to live up to her parents’ expectations or give up. Regardless of how old your daughters are – get involved now!!I'm not the perfect father, and I'm not a child psychologist.
I cannot say definitively that these are the only reasons, but never having been admitted into the patriarchal club of fathers, these are the only ones I’ve ever been able to uncover.
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Sitting at the BC Civil Liberties Association booth at the last Vancouver Car Free Day, I watched a man pass by with his two young daughters in tow. Even the most liberal of fathers seem to fall into the role of protector when it comes to their daughters, although by protecting their daughters’ innocence (read: virginity), they often fail to take into account how that perpetuates tired old sexist narratives.
There was nothing unusual about this father, save for the fact that he wore his bias openly for the world to see, rather than in the furtive manner by which men slightly more educated in feminism tend to hold their uncomfortability about their daughters dating.