I see this all the time: men, especially older ones, are thrilled to let us open up their world! It’s likely that they have been waiting for for a long time. What is the acceptable minimum age for your own (and others’) dating partners?It means that they haven’t been able to just call up a dude friend and say ‘hey Bob, I’d really like to see Paris. Learn about him by sharing what you’re passionate about or what you want to do next…then pay close attention to his response. If you can open your mind and learn more about how they think, live and love…you will start seeing the good guys I keep telling you about and that my clients and other students keep meeting. You’ll learn what he’s interested in, even if he hasn’t done it yet.
This doesn’t necessarily mean they are a doofus, friendless or dull. So the KEY is…when you meet a man (or look at an online dating profile), don’t nitpick what he’s doing and not doing as much as what he wants to do, or is open to doing. If you like other things about him and he shows potential to have your must-haves, be willing to dig a little, sister. I’d love to hear your thoughts about what I’ve shared. Will this help you change the way you judge some dates?
Only twice has he become involved with women whose ages were outside the rule’s guideline.
He approached the line with two other partners, but is well within the threshold in his marriage with Amal Alamuddin. The minimum rule (half-your-age-plus-seven) seems to work for men, although the maximum rule falls short, failing to reflect empirical age-related preferences.
But fantasies, of course, are not generally subject to public scrutiny and the rule is only designed to calculate what is socially acceptable —so this discrepancy is not necessarily a failure of the rule.
For rule-related involvement (e.g., relationships), 60-year-old men are stating that the minimum acceptable age is around 40ish, which does map much more closely to the rule’s predictions.