“You often want different things from a relationship than most people around you so it can be hard to find like-minded people.” For Laura, it’s comparable to the dilemma lots of people face if they know they don’t want children: “It might not matter so much when you're just dating and having fun but you can so easily get attached and find yourself months or years down the line unable to make it work,” she told .
Of course, the importance of religion varies for everyone.
There are endless underhand tactics, unspoken rules and too many options.
From the outside it seems like today’s commitment-phobic millennials have no interest in settling down, but there’s one sub-group of young people who But despite the apparent prevalence of millennial Christian couples saying their vows, the dating scene is a minefield for some young Christians - global Christian dating website Christian Connection told “Being a Christian definitely makes it more difficult because you have more specifications before you start,” explained 25-year-old Christian Laura*.
For 23-year-old Jess*, it’s her most important criterion when considering a romantic partner: “The most important person in my life is Jesus and if theirs isn't too then we're always going to have different priorities and different beliefs about how we should live our lives,” she explains.
And as with any loss, big or small, time is needed to grieve and to reassess who you are, where you've been and where God wants you to go.Although they’ve been together for months, she has some doubts about her decision: “I am still concerned that there are fundamental differences in our long-term goals and priorities that we won't be able to get past,” she admits.Of course, one key difference for Christians when dating is the issue of sex before marriage.A lot of Jess’s young Christian friends are already married, but she’s not concerned about being single: “We're told in the Bible that there are many great things about being single and many great things about being married.“In both situations as Christians we believe our ultimate aim is to glorify God in everything we do and that's where we find our joy and satisfaction.” This is a view shared by 24-year-old Emma from London, who is currently dating a man who shares her religion and outlook: “My faith means that I'm not looking for a partner to fulfil or complete me, like the rom-com image that is everywhere in our culture.